Episodes

Jeffrey and Troy are back after a long hiatus. In this episode, they talk about how "precious things come in ugly wrappings". They provide their life experiences and knowledge of 12 step principles to convey that sometimes good things can come out of bad circumstances. They emphasize spirituality as the bedrock for a sober, God centered life free from their addictions. We hope you enjoy this episode. To all the listeners, we will not quit the podcast! Just stay tuned and we'll try our ...

In this episode, Jeffrey and Troy discuss the often confusing nature of what it is that Higher Power wants for us in this life. Higher Power certainly does not want us to be in constant pain and anguish because of acting out in our sex and porn addiction. Is there a better way? Yes, there is. Higher Power always has a plan. Jeffrey and Troy discuss how they have come to realize and carry out Higher Power's plan in their lives. Send us an anonymous text message letting us know enjoy the show! Sta...

In this episode, Jeffrey gets into how taking the next right action immediately after acting out helped him bounce back from his relapse with "social media porn". Taking the next right action is a common recovery slogan, and it is common because of how well it works. If we just acted out, or are in fear that we are about to, distracting ourselves by taking the next right action is the shortcut back into recovery. Jeffrey and Troy provide their insight into this very useful program tactic, which ...

In this episode, Jeffrey and Troy discuss one of the most dangerous character defects: Denial. Denial holds all of us back from true sobriety in our recovery, especially sex and porn addiction. If we are in denial, we are not able to face the daily challenges that will inevitably pull us back into the grip of active addiction. Jeffrey explains how denial and pride have held him back from the sobriety he has been seeking in his life, and Troy gives his take using 12 step recovery program principl...

Ep 42 - To God, to Ourselves and to another Human Being In this episode, Jeffrey and Troy discuss the depth behind this phrase within the fifth step, and how to apply this thinking to our daily life in recovery. Addiction is a threefold disease: the allergy of the body, the obsession of the mind, and the spiritual malady. So we have a threefold solution: receving support from God, ourselves, and another human being. In whatever conception of God (Higher Power) that works for us. The fifth st...

Jeffrey and Troy talk about how in 12 step programs, we are encouraged to define our own conception of our higher power. Nobody will force on you a certain belief system in 12 step programs, which is a relief to many newcomers. They discuss how their own conceptions of God have changed over the course of their recovedy journey, touch on atheism in recovery, as well as give advice to newcomers who are just getting started with "the God concept". Hope you enjoy this episode! Send us an anonymous t...

In this epsiode, Jeffrey and Troy discuss the somewhat touchy subject of day count. Day count in AA or other substance abuse programs represents a tangible metric of sobriety. But what about in the Sex and Porn addiction space? Day count can be somewhat difficult to determine because there are so many behaviors that may be unhealthy for us, rather than simply one thing. Jeffrey and Troy share their experiences with day count in all of their program contexts, and intend to relay a message of hope...

In this episode, Jeffrey and Troy share their experience around the idea of "wearing life like a loose garment". Sometimes taking a step back to recover from life, and even from "recovery fatigue" is important. To stay sober, we also have to live our lives, do our work, and pursue our interests, as well as embrace the 12 step tools. Jeffrey and Troy discuss the importance of finding balance in life and recovery in order to "live life like a loose garment". Send us an anonymous text message letti...